Life is a journey.
No matter your age, or place in life there is always a journey.
Love is a journey. The journey doesn't just end when you fall in love. The journey continues everyday.
When I was 17 I started dating my best friend. We had been friends for years, but he finally got up the guts to ask me out. That was 7 years ago today.
At 17, I may have seemed like a confident, smart ass teenager on the inside, but really I was an insecure girl just trying to find her way. After dating for less than 6 months I knew that I was in love, but I was afraid to let myself be vulnerable. After all, he was leaving for Marine Corps boot camp. The night before he left (July 19) he professed his love to me. When he said those the little words, I actually just said "Thank You."
I was over the moon happy (and head of heels in love), but I was scared. What if I wasn't enough. What if when he came back, he would realize that there were so many girls out there who were skinnier than me, prettier than me and smarter than me. What if he realized he could do better?
That is one of the greatest lessons that love has taught me, that I am good enough. He loves me for all of things that make me the person I am. You have to love yourself before you can fully let someone in. I am who I am and I own it. If you change who you are for someone then they don't really love you, do they? That's why our love is great. He loves me for exactly who I am.
After boot camp my love went to training in Florida, then Fresno, CA and then finally he was stationed in San Diego, CA. We flew to see each other as often as possible during all of his training. We grew more and more in love every day, even though we didn't get to see each other all the time.
After many months of a long distance relationship I made a huge decision. I decided to pack my bags (3 to be exact) and hop on a plane and Move to San Diego, CA where the love of my life was stationed. So, 6 days after my high school graduation I did just that, and it was the best move I have ever made!
My journey to find love had taken me 2500 miles from home and it was the best thing I could have ever done!
A year after I moved to San Diego, I married the love of my life. Our life hasn't been a cake walk since then. We will have been married 5 years this June and of those 5 years we have only lived together for 3 of them. We have been through 3 deployments plus 6 different TDY (temporary duty) assignments.
Being apart hasn't always been easy, but I truly believe that we grew closer while we were geographically miles apart. There have been tears and heartache, lonely nights, empty days, yelling and making up. There have been days when I wasn't sure how much more time apart I could take, days where I was so angry with the Marine Corps for taking him away, days where I took that anger out on him. There have been missed holidays, birthdays, funerals graduations and anniversaries.
I have never been good at communicating, especially when it comes to feelings. In fact, I wasn't even sure what feelings were (kidding...kind of) until I fell in love with my husband. Since were apart so often communicating became very important and I had to learn to talk about my feelings. Being apart forces you to communicate in ways you may not be used to, but you have to communicate. Being able to talk to him doesn't replace his physical presence, but it helps and makes it easier for both of us to get through the bad (and the good) together.
Today, the Marine Corps has dropped us in a new city, with new people. My amazing friends are thousands of miles away, I can't find a decent job, and my husband works 13 hours a day, but he is home and we are together so I know that everything is going to be ok. This is just the current stop on our journey of life and love.
I am so glad that 7 years ago the amazing man I call my husband got up the courage to ask me to be his girlfriend in the basement of my parents house in the middle of the night. I love him with all my heart and I can't wait to spend another 7 (and many more) years with him and see where our journey takes us.
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Saturday, March 26, 2011
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Military Spouse Friday Fill-in
It's Friday, so I decided to do another Milspouse Friday Fill-in. The Friday Fill-in is from Wife of a Sailor.
If you were given $1,000 right now, how would you spend it?
I would buy furniture for our new house. This house is much bigger than our last house and we don't have closets so I need a place to put everything.
If you had to choose a movie title (a real one that already exists) for your life story, what would it be?
One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest...enough said.
If you were a teacher, what subject would you like to teach?
I was a preschool teacher for a while and that is such a great age to teach. I wouldn't want to teach just one subject. The younger kids are more fun. :)
Has being a MilSpouse changed how you view holidays or how your holidays are celebrated? If so, how? If not, what hasn’t changed?
The holidays have always been about family for me. When the husband isn't around for the holidays it is heart breaking, but I always surround myself with family, be it my blood relatives or my friends who are like my family. I always make sure to have a holiday package for my husband too. A few years ago I got plastic food and glued it to a plate and then put pictures of our whole family together so he could have his Thanksgiving meal with his family. I want him to feel as connected as possible when he is away.
What is your favorite Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate) memory?
I don't have just one favorite memory. I love looking back at remembering all of the magic of Christmas though. My family always made sure that everyone felt special. I love that I was brought up in a home where getting gifts was not the most important thing. We always "adopted" a family who couldn't afford gifts. We would collect the gifts from our church and then our family would deliver Christmas to a family. I have always loved to give gifts. I love to make someone else feel special and I never expect anything in return. I also love the times that I spent days baking with my mom and grandma. The house always smelled so good and we had such a great time in the kitchen, dancing, singing and baking up a storm. That's what I love about Christmas...it's not one specific memory and it didn't happen one time, but it's what I think of when I think of Christmas.
If you were given $1,000 right now, how would you spend it?
I would buy furniture for our new house. This house is much bigger than our last house and we don't have closets so I need a place to put everything.
If you had to choose a movie title (a real one that already exists) for your life story, what would it be?
One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest...enough said.
If you were a teacher, what subject would you like to teach?
I was a preschool teacher for a while and that is such a great age to teach. I wouldn't want to teach just one subject. The younger kids are more fun. :)
Has being a MilSpouse changed how you view holidays or how your holidays are celebrated? If so, how? If not, what hasn’t changed?
The holidays have always been about family for me. When the husband isn't around for the holidays it is heart breaking, but I always surround myself with family, be it my blood relatives or my friends who are like my family. I always make sure to have a holiday package for my husband too. A few years ago I got plastic food and glued it to a plate and then put pictures of our whole family together so he could have his Thanksgiving meal with his family. I want him to feel as connected as possible when he is away.
What is your favorite Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate) memory?
I don't have just one favorite memory. I love looking back at remembering all of the magic of Christmas though. My family always made sure that everyone felt special. I love that I was brought up in a home where getting gifts was not the most important thing. We always "adopted" a family who couldn't afford gifts. We would collect the gifts from our church and then our family would deliver Christmas to a family. I have always loved to give gifts. I love to make someone else feel special and I never expect anything in return. I also love the times that I spent days baking with my mom and grandma. The house always smelled so good and we had such a great time in the kitchen, dancing, singing and baking up a storm. That's what I love about Christmas...it's not one specific memory and it didn't happen one time, but it's what I think of when I think of Christmas.
Friday, November 12, 2010
Military Spouse Friday Fill-in
Since yesterday was Veteran's Day I thought it would be fitting to do a Friday fill-in from Wife of a Sailors blog.
1. Were you named after anyone?
I was! my first name is my maternal grandmothers name an my middle name is my aunt's and one of my mom's dear friends middle name.
2. What color, if any, are your toenails usually painted?
They are usually a dark red. Well, they usually have some seriously chipped red polish on them. I get a pedicure once every 3 months or so and i hardly ever take the time to paint them in between. Maybe I should start painting my toes and pampering myself once in a while!
3. How do you flush a public toilet? Hands? Feet? Something else?
I actually avoid using public toilets t all costs! I will hold all day if I have to. In September The Hubs and I drove across the country and I had no option, but to use public toilets! I swear we found the grossest ones in the country!! if I have to use a public toilet I just flush with my hand, because I immediately wash my hands.
4. When you were a little kid, which TV character did you have a crush on?
Where to start! I had a huge crush on Fred Savage's character, Kevin Arnold, in The Wonder Years. He was so cute and I loved the character that he played. I also had a crush on Jonathan Taylor Thomas and Zachery Ty Bryan's characters in Home Improvement. They were SO cute!
5. Let’s say you had to lose one of your five senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste, and smell). Which one would you choose? Why?
I would have to say hearing. I love to cook and I love food! Losing my sense of taste or smell would be hard. Without smell, you can't really taste much and I like to taste my food. Without touch, well...you know. Plus, when my husband hugs me, it can completely turn my day around. Without sight, there would be so many things I would be missing, though one of the brightest and most determined people I know is blind. He is 13 and I look up to him! Without hearing I could do almost anything that I enjoy. I would miss the sound of my husbands voice and I would like to hear my children's voices someday, but I would rather see their smiling faces.
Since yesterday was Veteran's Day I just want to say Thank you to my husband and to all those who have served, are serving and who will continue to serve our country! I am thankful for all you have done and continue to do. We, as a nation are lucky to have the brave men and women to protect us and our freedoms. My husband is the love of my life and my hero. Thank you babe, for your bravery and strength!
I dislike being called a military wife or a Marine wife because I am more than just a service members wife. There are so many parts that make me a whole and when people say military/Marine wife, I feel like the rest of me is being lost in what he does. This does not mean that I don't support his career, because it is just the opposite. I am so incredibly proud of him and what he does and will always support him 110%. What he does is amazing and he is amazing, but I am pretty amazing too.
1. Were you named after anyone?
I was! my first name is my maternal grandmothers name an my middle name is my aunt's and one of my mom's dear friends middle name.
2. What color, if any, are your toenails usually painted?
They are usually a dark red. Well, they usually have some seriously chipped red polish on them. I get a pedicure once every 3 months or so and i hardly ever take the time to paint them in between. Maybe I should start painting my toes and pampering myself once in a while!
3. How do you flush a public toilet? Hands? Feet? Something else?
I actually avoid using public toilets t all costs! I will hold all day if I have to. In September The Hubs and I drove across the country and I had no option, but to use public toilets! I swear we found the grossest ones in the country!! if I have to use a public toilet I just flush with my hand, because I immediately wash my hands.
4. When you were a little kid, which TV character did you have a crush on?
Where to start! I had a huge crush on Fred Savage's character, Kevin Arnold, in The Wonder Years. He was so cute and I loved the character that he played. I also had a crush on Jonathan Taylor Thomas and Zachery Ty Bryan's characters in Home Improvement. They were SO cute!
5. Let’s say you had to lose one of your five senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste, and smell). Which one would you choose? Why?
I would have to say hearing. I love to cook and I love food! Losing my sense of taste or smell would be hard. Without smell, you can't really taste much and I like to taste my food. Without touch, well...you know. Plus, when my husband hugs me, it can completely turn my day around. Without sight, there would be so many things I would be missing, though one of the brightest and most determined people I know is blind. He is 13 and I look up to him! Without hearing I could do almost anything that I enjoy. I would miss the sound of my husbands voice and I would like to hear my children's voices someday, but I would rather see their smiling faces.
Since yesterday was Veteran's Day I just want to say Thank you to my husband and to all those who have served, are serving and who will continue to serve our country! I am thankful for all you have done and continue to do. We, as a nation are lucky to have the brave men and women to protect us and our freedoms. My husband is the love of my life and my hero. Thank you babe, for your bravery and strength!
I dislike being called a military wife or a Marine wife because I am more than just a service members wife. There are so many parts that make me a whole and when people say military/Marine wife, I feel like the rest of me is being lost in what he does. This does not mean that I don't support his career, because it is just the opposite. I am so incredibly proud of him and what he does and will always support him 110%. What he does is amazing and he is amazing, but I am pretty amazing too.
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